If you’re looking to get positive outcomes from Emotional Freedom Technique, you need to avoid making some common EFT Tapping mistakes.
Whether you’re a dedicated tapper, or a someone whose given it a go a few times, it’s really important to be aware of these mistakes so that you can maximise the positive impact of tapping.
In our modern world of things which promise instant results, quick fixes and on demand content, you’d be forgiven for thinking EFT tapping is a one-time solution for all your problems; whilst it’s true that tapping can work really quickly for some things, in most cases it does take a bit of trial and error to make it work for you.
So let’s cut to the chase and learn how you can get more from your tapping practice each day!
Here are 5 common EFT Tapping mistakes and tips on how you can avoid them
1: Not being consistent
As mentioned above, we expect results and we expect them now! Remember, tapping is a process. A common analogy in therapy is peeling an onion; humans are complex creatures and the problems and issues built up over all the years of our life can be referred to as layers. With tapping, you need to slowly unpeel the layers to reveal the heart or core of a persons perturbance. This is where working with a practitioner is recommended as they’ll be able to guide you through the process, asking the right questions to facilitate the ‘unpeeling’ in a gentle, supportive way. Trying tapping a few times and expecting to suddenly be cured of all your deep-seated fears, trauma and issues just isn’t realistic, sorry!
How to avoid inconsistency
- Tap every day. Yep, every day. If you really want to change something in your life through EFT, then you need to make it part of your daily routine. Create a tracker to list your healthy habits and tick them off each day.
- Be accountable. Try tapping with a friend or join a tapping membership to keep yourself motivated and hold you to account.
- Work with a practitioner. Whether you are meeting weekly or monthly, over zoom or in person, you’ll find that by working with an EFT Coach or practitioner, you’ll be way more likely to be consistent with tapping.
2: Not recording your goals or progress
Like any kind of goals in life or in business, they need to be reviewed on a regular basis. What do you want to get out of tapping? How will you measure your success? Many people use tap along videos as a one-off (on demand tapping), which is great for a quick confidence boost or reducing stress, but for long-term deeper tapping outcomes, it’s well worth setting a longer term goal.
How to avoid drifting along with tapping
- Measure your progress. The easiest way to do this is by recording your SUDS (subjective units of distress) level before and after you tap. On a scale of 1-10 how high is the intensity of emotion about what you’re tapping about?
- Keep a tapping journal/planner. Use a notebook to record your SUDS for each tapping session and write down any physical symptoms or emotional shifts. You can download my A4 printable tapping planner here.
- Set a SMART tapping goal. SMART goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound.
3: Letting your tapping go stale
As the quote says, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”. This is one of the most common EFT Tapping mistakes; you keep trying the same way which hasn’t worked and hope for a different result, meaning you end up feeling demotivated, frustrated and ready to give up. Then tapping becomes a chore and quickly loses its appeal.
How to avoid stagnant tapping
- Get curious. What’s worked before? Why did that work better? What works for others? You can get advice and support in tapping Facebook groups.
- Try new techniques. There are many different tapping techniques you can try. Give them a go and see what works for you.
- Shake things up. Try tapping in a new location, try following a different tap along video and go into your tapping practice with excitement and enthusiasm.
4: Being a tapping robot
To be said in a robot voice…”Even-though-I-am-a-robot-I-love-and-accept-myself”. If you are just repeating phrases and going through the tapping points on autopilot, you are not going to get anything out of tapping! #justsayin. You need to *feel* EFT to get good results and that means focus, commitment and putting your heart and soul into it.
How to avoid being a robot
- Be present, be mindful. Having a tapping ‘why’ or goal can help with this, as can mindfulness and meditation, both of which can improve your focus and concentration.
- Bring the perturbance to mind. As you tap, it’s vital that the thing you are tapping about is in your mind. In TFT (Thought Field Therapy) this is paramount, and TFT practitioners will often ‘activate’ their clients to ensure their perturbance is felt. You can also use this with EFT; as an example, if you are tapping on social anxiety, you would imagine yourself just about to walk into a room full of people. That would activate your senses and you’d most likely experience some, or all, of the symptoms of anxiety which you usually get before such an event. Although unpleasant, these symptoms will dissipate with tapping and you’re more likely to get the results you’re hoping for.
- Be specific. The more specific you are with all the aspects of a problem, the better results you’ll have. Drill down and list all the aspects of the problem or issue, and tap on them one at a time. You will most likely need to do this more than once.
- OWN your tapping. If you’re following scrips or videos, change the words and phrases to things you would usually say to make it more relatable.
5: Going it alone for the tough stuff
This is another of the most common EFT tapping mistakes, and one I’ve made myself, after all, why would you pay someone to tap with you if you can access tapping videos on YouTube for free? The fact is, we can only go so far with anything we try ourselves, and the number 1 reason is….because of ourselves! We hold ourselves back for so many reasons, whether that’s due to sub-conscious blocks, limiting beliefs, or things outside of our scope of awareness, we can often be our own worst enemy without even realising it. It is crucial to work with a practitioner if you have PTSD or complex trauma, because if you tap alone, you might end up re-traumatising yourself and trust me, you do not want to do that! A practitioner can help you to get the most out of tapping in a safe and supportive way.
How to avoid doing it all by yourself
- Work with a practitioner. Find a reputable practitioner who can help you. Check reviews and get recommendations to find the right person. Many practitioners offer free discovery calls, so you can see if you’re a good fit for each other before you commit.
- Join a members tapping club. There are lots of tapping circles or members club out there which will give you some support without the price tag of working 1:1. Check what’s included before you commit.
Hopefully this has helped you if you’ve been struggling with tapping or aren’t getting the results you expected. As with any new habit or technique, it’s important to stick at it and shake things up a little!
Have you made any of these mistakes? Or maybe you have another common EFT Tapping mistake to add?! Please feel free to comment below.